Adventures in sex...please help me.
I guess I'll start with the short back story. Since the day I hit puberty and have been able to have an orgasm...it's always been by my own hand. Not once have I been able to have an orgasm by any means other than me jacking myself off. The ONE and only exception to that is an ex several years ago. However, I was asleep and woke up having the orgasm... I know not fair. Fast forward to the present. I have been with by b/f for almost 5 years now. My b/f is quite "vanilla" in the bedroom and we hardly ever do anything different that your "standard" sex. And that includes me having an orgasm by jacking off. I have for some reason decided that I want to experience an orgasm from him orally or by him jacking me off. Last night was the first try. Unfortunately I was a tad drunk (I get "whiskey dick" pretty easily) and needless to say I didn't have an orgasm. The sex was great, he had an orgasm and all was good. I don't necessarily have a concern, but would like to know if there's anything that we can do to help the process.
I firmly believe that my biggest problem up to this point is that I have gotten my body accustomed to only having an orgasm with me jacking off in the same fashion that I have for the past 15 years. So we're going to keep working on it, but does anyone have any bits of help they could throw my way?